Advice for dating an older man
Looking back at that relationship now, seven years later, there are so many things I wish someone had told me before I decided to become the Lolita to this guy’s Humbert².
That, by the way, is actually a comparison I made at the time, which is so gross to me now.
I romanticized a story about an adult man kidnapping, molesting, and raping an adolescent girl.
None of that stuff happened to me, but I still wince when I remember how I idealized the thought of someone being single-mindedly obsessed with me the way the novel’s narrator is with Lolita.
Online dating is all the rage these days and it seems that everyone is getting involved in one way or another.
Before I get into the real nitty gritty, though, a few caveats.
First, being attracted to older guys is completely and totally normal.
However cool it makes you is exactly how lame it makes him.
You might feel like Joan Jett when he picks you up in his Seville outside the high school in front of all your friends, but he is being mercilessly mocked by all of the women in his life for dating a 14-year-old.2.
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